{"id":9205,"date":"2017-02-27T13:10:56","date_gmt":"2017-02-27T19:10:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hungryformore.org\/?p=9205"},"modified":"2017-02-27T13:10:56","modified_gmt":"2017-02-27T19:10:56","slug":"the-hardwoods-of-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hungryformore.org\/the-hardwoods-of-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"The Hardwoods of Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hartlee Kirk<\/a>‘s\u00a0guest post\u00a0reminds me not only of my early days of marriage, but of deep truths that ring true today as well. No matter where we are in the process of our marriage (or even other relationships), she\u00a0makes us want to roll up our sleeves and get to work!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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As he peeled the rusty-orange shag carpet away, the original hardwood floors<\/strong> beneath breathed their first breath of fresh air after years of suffocation. My eyes danced as they stared at the new flooring in our home renovation, dreaming of potential. When spots of discontinuity and cracks were uncovered, those dreams turned to dread of the work<\/strong> to be done.<\/span><\/p>\n

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My husband and I now have a decision to make in our current remodel project. We can put in extra labor, time, and money to restore the flooring to it\u2019s original beauty. Or make the alternative choice to cover up history for the sake of convenience. The hopeful expectations in my glimmering eyes refocused as reality came into view.<\/span><\/p>\n

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When the disappointment of imperfection surfaces, most people turn to the easy solution. The same principle can be seen in relationships<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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My marriage can serve as an example. In the early stages of our dating relationship, the stars in our eyes masked the shortcomings we had as individuals. We knew from Romans 3:23 that \u201call have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,\u201d<\/em> but had only seen glimpses of our fallen state in our eighteen months of dating and engagement. After committing \u201ctil death do us part\u201d we jumped into the rhythms of life together under the circumstances of moving to Louisiana, leaving friends and family, Jordan starting a new job, me transferring universities, buying a house, and adding a puppy to the mix since the transition wasn\u2019t stressful enough. Our life together started on unfamiliar ground, but leaning into the Rock of our salvation stabilized us when our relationship felt shaky; God has to be our foundation<\/strong> or else we crumble.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cMy flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.\u201d<\/em> Psalm 73:26<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Expecting someone to be \u2018perfect\u2019 sets them up for failure<\/strong>; Jesus is the only Person Who was capable of perfection on Earth because He is God. Holding someone else to that standard, or thinking they are without flaw becomes idolatry. There is a constant internal struggle against self-centeredness in every \u2018good\u2019 relationship. Serving, loving, and submitting goes against the human nature of desiring control, power, authority, freedom, respect, and glory. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Relationships require work!<\/strong> The covenant before man and God at the marriage altar has to be taken seriously, because marriage requires serious work. Flowers shrivel and memories fade, but the orange carpet will be pulled back exposing flaws to the light that you never knew existed. This is where \u201cfor better, or for worse\u201d plays a role.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Being a bearer of \u2018worse\u2019 is humbling, and being a witness of \u2018worse\u2019 is disappointing and invokes\u00a0fear. Restoration requires lowering your position, getting down into the splinters, and working in confidence of the potential at hand. One morning, the sunbeams will spread across the living room, warming the hard-worked surface. The upkeep will be continual as scuffs appear and cracks resurface, but the ongoing process of restoration is beautiful<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Hartlee Kirk‘s\u00a0guest post\u00a0reminds me not only of my early days of marriage, but of deep truths that ring true today as well. No matter where we are in the process of our marriage (or even other relationships), she\u00a0makes us want to roll up our sleeves and get to work!\u00a0       As he peeled the rusty-orange shag carpet away, … <\/p>\n

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