Why I Can Love

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Today’s guest post is by my friend, Kelli Comley. I first met her several years ago at a conference, when she was obviously one of the youngest in attendance. Even as a high school student, Kelli’s passion to know Jesus was evident in the way her quiet personality blossomed as she spoke of Him. Now studying nutrition at Texas Tech University, Kelli continues to pursue Him. Grab a cup of coffee and join Kelli as she tells her story.


Kandy’s daughter recently wrote about having a loving father in her life, mentioning how this has helped her more easily comprehend the presence of our Heavenly Father. For many, this holiday serves as an amazing reminder of how blessed they are to have wonderful fathers in their lives. For others, it is a painful reminder of an absent, abusive, or unloving father which may affect their comprehension of a love and tenderness from the Father.

In the past, seeing how loving dads treated and honored their children was a painful reminder to me of how my father treated my family and me. The memory that I always had was starving for love, acceptance, and encouragement. Instead, what I received and believed was normal of a dad, was verbal abuse and a detached presence.

Every day I was reminded that I was never good enough, stupid, annoying, and ugly. Through my dad’s lies, my relationship with my mother was sabotaged and I was isolated from everyone except my siblings. I was never able to have the guidance of a woman that I needed, so I struggled in many areas in my life growing up. Eventually, I was so beaten down and almost broken that I could not look people in the eyes. I always walked with my head down, filled with social anxiety. I would develop, and eventually struggle with anorexia. Not long after my seventeenth birthday, my dad walked away and abandoned us for his mistress.

Despite the abuse, abandonment, and brokenness, I held tightly to my faith in God. When my dad left, God began to show me that I was never alone through all those years. He placed people in my life that encouraged and built me up. He showed me a true Father’s love. He has given me a confidence that comes from Him alone and has healed my heart.

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You may not know what it is like to have a good, loving dad but your Heavenly Father loves you beyond what an earthly father is capable to bestow. So much so, that God gave His perfect Son to save you. He loves us more than we can begin to imagine, and He longs to show us that each day. God only asks that we allow Him into our lives, so that He can reveal who He is. His love and goodness toward us is truly incomprehensible.

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The following verses have enlightened me toward His desire for me as His daughter. Let these flow into your heart until you truly believe. “He is a Father to the fatherless(Psalm 68:5). “‘And I will be a father to you, And you shall be sons and daughters to me,’ says the Lord Almighty” (2 Corinthians 6:18). “See how great a love the Father has bestowed upon us, that we should be called children of God” (1 John 3:1).

You are greatly loved and cherished by a perfect Father who has never abandoned or forsaken you. May we not take amazing dads for granted, but may we especially never take our most amazing wonderful Father of all for granted!