Amanda Taylor Walker is guest posting with us again today. I’m so thankful to have her in my life.
Today she gives us an excellent word regarding living in the trenches of parenthood.
When I was 27 years old my doctor told me that I would probably never have children. At that time I was single, and I wondered if I would ever be married. It was a difficult time in my life, but I knew God had a plan for me.
Three years later I met and married my husband. I confided to him that we might not have physical children, so we looked forward to the possibility of one day adopting. Therefore, you can imagine the amazement we felt when, seven months into our marriage, we found out we were expecting a daughter.
By the time she was six months old, all sorts of people were giving us “advice” regarding parenting.
“Enjoy this stage because it all goes downhill from here.”
“This is when they are sweet, and then they grow up to be a three-year old, a pre-teen, and a teenager…”
“I remember when mine were this little and now they are a pain…”
Most of the time this “advice” is given right in front of their children and it broke my heart. What this precious child heard was that they were once valued, but now they are merely an inconvenience.
We live in a world where we despise being inconvenienced. We eat fast food, drive fast cars, talk on fast cell phones, and live in the fast lane. We even DVR our TV shows to watch at a more convenient time.
More and more women are choosing to not have children or regret having them…all because of the “apparent” inconvenience of children. A New York Post article noted that choosing to be childless in order to pursue a more fulfilling life is on the rise. And those who have children wish they could experience more freedom.
I have learned a few things about being “inconvenienced.” For example, I used to get 6-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep, but now I can count it a blessing when I get 4 hours of sleep.
I’ve also learned that just because your food is ready to eat does not mean that you will be eating it anytime soon. I laughed with a friend the other day when she said, “I think my little girl hears the “ding” of the microwave and decides it’s time for HER to eat.”
Any way you look at it, motherhood is inconvenient…and that is exactly how God designed it!! Did we really think our precious children would come into our lives and not change things?
From the moment you hear those amazing words, “You’re pregnant!” God desires to mold and shape you into the parent who resembles His fatherly love.
But this shaping can only happen as we give over our rights to ourselves and allow God the freedom to shape us. The problem I have noticed is that, often times, we push against His molding.
He wants to produce within us love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control, and the tool He frequently uses to teach us these virtues is our children (Galatians 5:22-23). But, when we treat our children as individuals who have interrupted our nice, cozy life, we disrupt what God desires to do in us and in them.
It saddens the heart of God when parents, especially professing Christians, handle their children with careless contempt. God shows His amazing love towards us when He inspired David to write: “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well” (Psalm 139: 13-14).
God wonderfully and miraculously made each child, and then gave them to us to be a blessing in our lives. They come into our world needing us to serve them, mold them, disciple them, and show them Christ’s love.
The Bible speaks over and again about the blessing of children (Psalm 128, Psalm 139:13-19, and Jeremiah 1:5). One of my favorite passages on parenthood is Psalm 127:3-4: “Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.” Your children are a blessing to you. Yes, they are messy, loud, and interrupt your day…but that is exactly what we should expect!
I am SO thankful that God does not see me, His child, as an inconvenience. Instead, while I was still a sinner He sent His Son, Jesus, to die for me (Romans 5:8). When I have come to Him in need, I have never felt Him roll His eyes at me or turn away because I called at an inconvenient time. He delights in my need of Him, and He encourages me to come to Him…with anything and at ANY time. He does not demand that I wait until morning, or that I grow up first, or that I get a grip. He offers Himself, and delights as we come to Him. What an amazing Heavenly Father we have who has given us the example of how to love, nurture, and give, even when it is difficult. My prayer is that my two little girls will always know and feel that her parents prayed for them and find them valuable.
Do you see your precious children as an inconvenience or an amazing blessing from God? I pray God will show you how to love and bless your children…even during the inconvenient moments of your day.
Amanda and her blessings on Mother’s Day.