Mistakes are the most destructive force in our lives.”


The caption caught my attention as I thumbed through a SkyMall magazine on a recent flight. I do hate mistakes, don’t you?


I’m not really a perfectionist, but I don’t like to waste time. We never seem to have enough of this valuable resource. 


Wouldn’t it be great if every plan not only was the best thought out, but also was carried out with the greatest efficiency?


Well, that pretty much sums up what it’s like to be wise.


Wise” – Greek adjective “sophos” – Forming the best plans and using the best means for their execution.


Let’s look at some spiritual principles regarding wisdom:


  • The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom” (Psalm 111:10)

      • It starts with attitude: an attitude that respects God.  Without it, we won’t have the best plan, because we won’t be listening to the Best Planner. If we don’t have the best plan, how much less will we know how best to execute.


      • Sometimes we are terrified at what God might “do to us” if we turn planning over to Him. If you are at this point, start with being willing to be willing. Ask Him to reveal how much better His plans are than your own. Pray that He will reveal Himself so as to increase your faith.

  • Truth and wisdom go hand in hand. (Psalm 51:6)



  • Wisdom is given first to the heart, not the mind (Proverbs 2:10). 


      • When our heart has adopted a submissive attitude to obey God, then our heart is open to hear His plans for us.


      • John MacArthur says, “Wisdom then is not what I know, wisdom is how I live”. As wisdom bubbles forth from our inner being, it will naturally affect our decisions and actions.


So how do you keep from making mistakes? In parenting? Mentoring? Just plain living?


(Hint: I am pretty sure it’s not by shopping on SkyMall.)




Holy Father,


It’s summer and my schedule has suddenly changed. Children need full-time care again. I’m excited, but know from experience that this creates its own source of challenges. I’m glad You are my Source to run to when I don’t know what else to do. 


First, I ask that this be a summer that I don’t lean on what I see and understand with my own reasoning. Instead, may both my children and I find ways to acknowledge You daily. Straighten out my paths as I entrust these months to You (Proverbs 3:5-6). Sometimes, when we are all together, boredom can set in and make the darks seem awfully dark. I pray that this time our pathway as family would get brighter and brighter as we walk in the Light You provide (Proverbs 4:18). Thank You that when we have just a little of Your light, You promise that we are on the way for more (Psalm 39:6). 


Focus our eyes to look into final reality, where You reign supreme over the details. Give me the energy to do one thing at a time, carefully watching exactly what I am teaching my children. Establish my footsteps into Your pathway, so I can lead my children into the future You have planned (Proverbs 4:25). 


Reveal to me how I can still spend time in Your word this summer. With limited alone time, I ask that You to stir up the Word already within me. Grant me recall with the Word that’s already in my heart. Guide me while I do chores; watch over me while I sleep, and speak to me first thing in the morning (Proverbs 6:22). Thank You that Your Word is light to our family (Proverbs 6:23). When I do have spare time, remind me to seek Your Presence rather than the latest on social media. Knowledge of You is where I will get her understanding for my day (Proverbs 9:10). 


As I relate to my family, I ask that You bind up nit-picky words from our mouths. Although I seldom feel wise, I know that You have made me so in Christ Jesus (1 Corinthians 1:30). Faithing this, I know my tongue can bring healing (Prov. 12:18). Reveal to me how I can help my children fulfill their desires (Proverbs 13:12) without spoiling them rotten (Prov. 13:24). It’s a delicate balance.


Even though you have made me wise in Christ Jesus, I still want to ask for wisdom today (James 1:5). Grant me wisdom, so that I can speak words that encourage, not words that tear down (Proverbs 14:1). Teach me how to use my words to soothe and be like a strong life-giving tree (Proverbs 15:4). Weighs my motives and direct me how to see myself as You do (Proverbs 16:2). I commit my parenting plans to You, Lord. Fulfill Your promise and organize them for our best (Proverbs 16:3). 


May the training that my children receive be straight from Your heart. Despite my exhaustion and questions, be the Foundation that allows them to grow into Spirit-led adults (Prov. 22:6). Grant me strength, and remind me daily to ask for it. I’ll need it especially in the unexpected times of trouble (Proverbs 24:10).  Thank You that even when my flesh and my strength fails, You are still the strength of my heart (Psalm 73:26).  Show us a clear vision for where You are taking our family (Proverbs 29:18). 


As I work out what Proverbs 31 means for me, remind me often that success in parenting is not through my works but through faith in Your works (Romans 11:6; Ephesians 2:10). My I some day hear my children say, “my mom is a woman worthy of praise!” (Prov. 31:30). In Jesus’ Name, Amen.