Pulling weeds

That’s my job in the ever constant battle to maintain a yard. Now I don’t always do this just after church, but yet, I do hate weeds.


All of this time in the grass gives me time to consider the need of weeding my words.


1. When I break off the top of a weed, I can know that I will see it again in the exact same place. I can either go get a tool and dig out the root system, or wait a week or so until it comes back up. Waiting necessitates a deeper dig, as now the roots are larger.


Lesson: Our speech roots to the heart. If our approach is to “keep our mouth closed”, we effectively “pull off the top” and will see those same destructive words reappear at another time. The sooner that we allow the Father to deal with the root, the smaller knife He has to use in pruning.



2. The weeds are worse along the edges of our yard. The alley weeds quickly spread into our yard, especially at the borders. 


Lesson: The more friendship I have with the world, the more apt I will be to see those thoughts and attitudes reproduced in my everyday language. 



3. Weeding is easier when Mark has just watered. Weeds come up cleaner when the soil is moist. 


Lesson: Daily doses of the Word keeps my heart (and my tongue) free from growing wild and uprooting healthy habits.



4. Weeding is not overnight work, but takes place over time


Lesson: Don’t be discouraged when “weedy words” get the best of you. This is a gradual process, but the hidden Spirit inside of us is growing steadily stronger as we daily surrender to Him. “Now there was a long war between the house of Saul and the house of David; and David grew steadily stronger, but the house of Saul grew weaker continually” (2 Samuel 3:1). As we feed His seed within us, our sin nature starves. 



What is the most significant thing that the Father has revealed to you about your words?




 “Not everyone likes to hear you talk as much as you do, Mom!”


As my daughter left the room, I felt her words pierce my heart. After a good cry, I went to talk the the Lord about it. I found out that He agreed with her. Granted, He said it in a much gentler fashion, but I hadn’t listened to Him, until my daughter managed to say it first.


Your children, especially in their teen years, are your soul’s best mirror. If you really want to see how others see you, ask them. Because, at some point or another, they are going to tell you just what they think about you.


I’m not saying that every word is truth or that teenaged attitudes should be given carte blanche. 


Yet as you filter their words through the screen of His Word, you may find a few kernels of truth worth noting. 


Adolescent hormones and puberty are the gravel through which you sift to find the nuggets of gold. Your children are selected especially for youPart of that purpose includes seeing yourself through a candid set of eyes


God has given us spiritual reflectors all around us:


In our parents

In our husbands

In our children

In our mentees

In our bosses

In our co-workers


Like living in a house of mirrors, every corner offers us a self-reflection in the eyes of our family. Our trouble is that we often don’t want to see our true image. Seventeenth century French Christian Francois Fenelon says, “The pain you feel at your own imperfection is worse than the faults themselves. Your problem really is that you become so irritated by seeing your faults.”


Are you willing to see yourself as God sees you? Then pick up the separating screen and begin sorting through words of Truth you hear and words of emotion:


  • You can most usually throw out sentences that include the words “always” or “never”. Things like: “You never let me have any fun.” “You always look for ways to embarrass me.” Look for the nugget of truth within the statement, but sentences with extreme qualifiers are usually emotion based. 


  • Is there a Scripture verse similar to the statement you just heard? “Not everyone likes to hear you talk as much as you do” is quite similar to our next verse in James:  “If anyone thinks himself to be religious, and yet does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this man’s religion is worthless” (James 1:26).  Forgive the pain of how it was said and move on to living the revealed Word of God. 


  • Just because you find your child’s disobedience similar to your own, you must still discipline. As you do so, invite the Lord to work within you in that specific area. Take disciplinary action cues from the way He disciplines you. 


I’m sure you have so many more practical insights. 


How has seeing your reflection in the eyes of another made you better?